Single young moms dating
In fact, dating might widen your social support circle. Right online, but she did make new friends (and someone to tend her garden).Enjoy this new chapter whenever you can, and try to laugh at the wilder moments.John says,"take as long as necessary to maintain the safety and happiness of your family first." You'll want to tell your kids about the new person ahead of time (consider explaining the qualities that make you like them so much, as St.John suggested), and address any questions and feelings they have. John said she didn't introduce her own kids to men until she was confident he was "safe," and they'd been together long enough for her to know things were getting serious. "Lillibridge, whose kids were toddlers when she started dating, said she took the approach of introducing new boyfriends as just another one of her platonic male friends.Dating—and the possibility of rejection that comes with it—can test even those with unbreakable self-esteem.So before you post a profile or say yes to that coffee date, wait until you're sure "you're strong enough to handle the setbacks, the ghosting, and other potentially bad behavior out there," says Lucy Good, founder of Beanstalk, an online community for single mothers."Be upfront," she says, and consider using it as a teachable moment with kids."When you get to a point where you're seeing someone special, take the opportunity with your children to discuss your special someone's qualities and characteristics, and why those are essential to you.""Our kids need to see us enjoying ourselves, getting out there, and creating a new life, just so long as they understand that their place is safe and secure in it," Good says.
John, a certified sex coach whose work includes counseling parents on sex ed."Being a parent is such an important part of who you are that you shouldn’t hide it," Good points out."In fact, it's often a plus, especially with so many other single parents out there looking for love."Don't worry about "scaring off" a potential love with the fact that you're a mom. John says the k-word makes for a great filter, because you won't get attached to someone who doesn't like or want kids.Good recommends asking yourself these questions (which you can also ask your kids, if it feels right) before you make any intros: "Are they ready to see Mom with guy who is not Dad? "I didn’t want to fall in love with someone who didn’t get along with my kids—so I wanted a 'test run' fairly early in relationships—but I didn’t want the kids to know it was significant." "One mistake I made was introducing my kids to a man I was dating and his dog," she adds."Although they didn’t care one bit about him vanishing, they asked about the dog for months after we broke up!
Lara Lillibridge, author of explains why trying to find romance can actually benefit your children in the long run."Kids need a healthy relationship role model," she says.