Dating someone who is not yet divorced
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You sabotage your chances of succeeding, because you are afraid that you can’t replace the past.
If you come from a divorced family, you may have unprocessed guilt that acts as a saboteur, making you deny the reality of the divorce – just as you may have wanted to do as a child with your own parent. Above all, discover what you are trying to protect yourself from by ceding what is now your power, back to some defunct relationship that doesn’t exist.
If there is any chance at all that they can work their marriage out then that is what I personaly would want them to do.
Once the legalities are done that chapter will be closed in a sense. I would NEVER want to be what seperated a parent from their children. These comments can come from your partner’s friends, family members or colleagues who are unaware of how it may affect you.A need to compete with this ‘ex’ who suddenly appears to be a paragon of skill and admiration overtakes you.So is it a good idea for my friend to go out with him or should she hold off until his divorce is finalized? But if your friend goes into it with open eyes and knows the risks it could be ok, and she might find after date #1 she would not want to see him again anyway. Of course, not knowing the circumstances behind the divorce clouds ALL of our judgements here, so.....I'm not sure when that will be but they can and do happen quickly in our state. Personally I wouldn't have him even after his divorce was final.
They seem to like each other and he has hinted at taking her out on a date.