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To qualify for the contest, readers were asked to give their best advice for newly divorced women. Keep the friends that are true to you and don't judge you.
Thanks to their great feedback, five lucky entrants received a free copy of the book How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed, a true story about a woman starting over after a divorce. Make a life for yourself that you will like and enjoy. Know that just because someone stops loving you; you may not automatically stop loving them. Find a way to use that love to set yourself free of them. Revenge thoughts are not good for you; put that energy into good thoughts for yourself.
Make new friends with women who are single, independent, confident, and happy. ~Sharon~ First of all remind yourself that God loved you first. You need to focus on yourself and this will benefit everyone around you. It's just over 2yrs since I started proceedings to end my marriage, and finally signed the separation agreement yesterday. When I left my lawyers office I drove home with Hush Hush - Pussycat Dolls blasting from my CD and sang it at the top of my voice! Don't give people the details unless you know that they love you forever! DO NOT start a new relationship for quite a while after. ~Judith~ There are friends and there are "FRIENDS".
Casually date at first, go slow, and DON'T rebound. Secondly learn to love yourself, every flaw, every stretch mark, lump or wrinkle. Relive your childhood, go outside and play, swim, run ,jump live! The lyrics in that song is my theme tune to my new start. The ones that count won't judge you, will listen to you, will love you, and will always support you in any way you need. However, with a death friends and family come to you. It's time to take advantage of the love your friends and family have for you.
Read on for tips on taking care of yourself, getting support, moving forward, and more. I found changing the home how I liked it (he was a hoarder, I have OCD!
Here are some of the different topics offering advice that you can find below. Spend time with family, as long as they don't drain you with negativity. ), de-cluttering, and cleaning thoroughly made me feel better on a bad day…
Being a newly divorced woman isn't easy, but it's a journey that we must all go through when our marriage ends.
In the spirit of "Passing it On", we've decided to share their inspiration and insight to make the journey easier for other newly divorced women. Organize trips on your own, go abroad or have a holiday on your own. ~ Realize that no matter WHAT he said, if he put you down, and robbed you of your self-confidence…it wasn't your fault ~~~ It really does take 2 to tango!
When things get too emotional, exercise, do yoga, go outside, take a walk, focus on being back in this moment, take a deep breath feel the sun on your face. The holidays can be rough, make new traditions, anything that makes you happy and celebrates you is an option! Despite the fact that it seems like you are the only one going through this difficult hardship, someone else has it ten times harder than you. You are a beautiful woman and deserve so much better, and believe me better is out there! Regardless of what he has said it is what you say to yourself that matters most. This really helped me to build my self esteem, sharpen my focus and thinking. When I start to talk to someone and tell them I am going through a divorce, more then 50% of the time they are divorced also.
The biggest thing that divorce taught me was that I just had to be my own knight in shining armor! Do things that interest you and meet like minded people. You alone can control your actions and thoughts, so you alone have the power over how you face each day. Read "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne and try and follow its guidance. Don't get so hung on what you lost that you lose sight of what you have to gain. Keep a journal: it won't judge you and it won't give you advice. Hopefully, writing will help you see things clearer and ultimately help you problem-solve. It is so true: what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Look at this experience as learning about your inner core. :) I left my life, my education, my family, friends etc behind, sold my condo.... Instead of getting the chalk to draw a line around his body. It was the first of many gifts that I gave to myself. It's good to talk to someone who has also been on the divorce roller coaster!!
The hardest thing to do is to keep focused on what YOU want, and to avoid the "if only's".
I suggest writing yourself a letter saying all the things you like about yourself and your strong points. When the "if only" thoughts enter your mind - REMIND yourself, You are special, you will be even better - be determined! Keep yourself in good health -- and make sure to exercise and keep fit. Get your finances in order, and do all you can to avoid getting into debt. Enjoy time with yourself (and your children if you have some). Even little things like new linens or rearranging the furniture can make it feel like a new room.
Travel, explore, cry, dance, shout, swear, vent, walk, read, sing, garden..alive! It is so important to be able to pick up the phone when you are at your lowest and ask for a supportive ear!