Dating he calls last minute
Always remember that a man worth your attention will make sure you know his is fully on you. In a situation where you’ve been dating someone long enough to pick up on his laid-back nature and tendency to make last-minute plans, there’s no immediate cause for concern.
Some genuinely nice and caring guys (and women, for that matter) just don’t operate on the principle that plans need to be set in stone or confirmed beforehand; they’ll simply assume the date is still on or call you to figure out specifics shortly before you intend to meet.
Will he think less of me or value me and my time less? No those thoughts would never occur to me, because like I said I use other more substantive measures to determine value, and I prefer to assume the best in men until they show me otherwise.
And my open and positive attitude would usually result in that happening too; bringing out the best in men instead of assuming the worst, which imo would tend to bring out the worst.
You can dream up countless excuses for him or call him to ask what happened, but he should be the one providing a valid explanation for you.
If he’s worth it, he’d have either called beforehand to reschedule or afterward to explain the bizarre emergency situation in which he was unable to call, text, email, Facebook message or send smoke signals.
I considered keeping my Saturday evening open in the hope I would go out with him, but he hadn’t locked me down, so that’s why I went ahead and make plans.
I wanted to make plans for Saturday, so I went ahead and did so with some friends.When I let him know that I had made plans (I also noted that I enjoyed spending time with him and I was looking forward to going out again), he basically sent me a tersely worded email expressing his disappointment and I haven’t heard from him since.So, should I have made myself more available to him?Which is exactly what you did when you made other plans on Saturday night although he’d already intimated that he wanted to see you again. By the way, there’s a great video about this in Love U, called “The 2 Exceptions to Mirroring.”Click here to get access to the first two weeks for free (only available for a limited time only! If this man was interested wouldn’t he try to lock down plans with her for the weekend.So allow me to reiterate once and for all: the purpose of mirroring — which is to say, reacting to his advances instead of making advances of your own — is to avoid chasing the cute guy. And because you didn’t approach him directly with a perfectly reasonable question shoring up your plans, you ended up alienating him. By sending that text, wouldn’t it mean that she’s reminding him that she’s alive and interested?
However, there are isolated incidents where it’s not necessarily an immediate cause for dismissal. It may sound specific and arbitrary; but once the clock strikes 3 p.m., the day is winding down and approaching early evening (read: too late to accept any new plans). But trust me: a man who’s genuinely interested in you would have already beaten you to it.