Dating and the christian woman
“Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.” I have seen it so many times a young lady falls for an unbeliever and uses the disguise that she is trying to win him for Christ.9/10 times the unfortunate outcome is usually that she compromises on her faith.
The dating world, however, is not the place to be a missionary. It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don’t be a freakish weirdo. It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability. If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion? If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage? ” Can you imagine how constantly hearing this question from friends, family, and unsuspecting old ladies makes some singles believe they have a problem? When you date, allow the community of people around to speak into your relationship. Your friends are able to see inconsistencies and problems you can’t because they are outside the storm. If you are confident God called you to marry, he will deliver. There must be a secret bylaw passed down from the early church fathers, but once you reach the age of 25 you will be asked the question almost weekly…”When are you getting married?
While 2 Corinthians always seems to be used in reference to Christians dating non-believers, I believe we can also be unequally yoked with believers.