Cougar dating older woman
“These older women are confident, sexually mature, they don’t have inhibitions, they know what they like, and they know what they want,” said Nancy D.
O’Reilly, clinical psychologist, researcher, author and host of Voice America’s radio program “Timeless Women Speak.” Cougars are independent, career-oriented women who have a been-there-done-that attitude towards marriage and “don’t need anyone to take care of them,” she said.
“For a 70-year-old guy to go out with a 40-year-old woman, as opposed to a 70-year-old woman going out with a 40-year-old guy?
A 70-year-old woman going out with a 40-year-old guy is considered creepy.” Why the double standard?
To her shock and bemusement, there was a new term to describe what she had been doing most of her life — dating younger men.
“It’s definitely considered creepier for women to go out with younger men,” admitted Junie Smith*, a 52-year-old cougar who lives on Manhattan’s Lower East Side.I was a cougar before there were cougars.” Indeed, Wheeler’s pre-marriage and post-divorce dating history reads like a steamy screenplay.She listed a string of young men with whom she had various relationships, occasionally punching numbers into a calculator to determine age differences she had never considered in the first place.“I can’t explain why, but I’ve always been,” she said, pausing.“Without even knowing someone’s age, you can be sure I’m going to gravitate toward the younger guy.
And since men have been dating younger women for ages, why are so many of us surprised — shocked, even — that women would follow suit?